We did it three times. It was hard. It was fun. We survived.
If you're expecting a baby for the first time, life will never be the same after the arrival home - babe in arms.I can personally testify that this is change with a capital "C"! New parents are usually blissfully unaware of how much their new little one will effect their lives - we certainly were. There's the lack of sleep which can put a damper on almost everything. And the lack of available time and pure exhaustion almost certainly contributes to a lack of desire for intimacy. These are challenges even the healthiest marriages face.
Marriage experts say that many couples while experiencing deep joy over their infant's arrival may also have their greatest marital problems during their baby’s first year of life. This means that couples must work hard to keep the marriage happy and healthy. What's recommended? After baby arrives safe and sound, plan specific ways to work on your marriage relationship. Here are a few ideas.
1. Read a marriage book together.
2. See a Christian counselor for help with your communication.
3. Very important: Get away for a weekend alone within the first 3 months of your baby’s arrival.
4. Have regular date nights. You must plan to leave your baby with a sitter or grandparent for a few hours - this brief get-away allows you to spend needed time reconnecting as a couple.
Learning to be a parent is exciting, fun, and joy-filled. And stressful. Don’t allow the strain of caring for your baby to create separation between you and your spouse. Stay close. Stay caring. Stay in love. Your child will one day say "Mom and Dad, thanks for the happy home you gave me."
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